As a new widow, it's normal to feel overwhelmed and anxious by all the adjustments you need to make in your lifestyle. You may be fearful of the future, struggle with loneliness, and feel like you don't fit in anywhere. While the grieving process won't go away for quite some time, being part of a Christian church can help you through this difficult time.
Find a Christian Church
It's easy to feel intimidated when you start to look for a church to attend. There's so many to choose from, and the fact that you're already feeling overwhelmed only adds to more anxiety. Which one should you go to? How do you know where to start?
Asking your friends for recommendations is always a good place to start, but what is a good fit for one person may not be a good fit for you. You can also find out a lot about churches by searching online, reading their mission statements, and seeing what programs they offer besides typical worship services.
However, nothing can compare to visiting the church. It's usually best to pick a few churches near your home and attend several services at each one. Reach out to the pastor and other members of the church and let them know you are looking for a church home. It won't be difficult to tell if you feel at home and to see if the people seem friendly and helpful.
Don't be afraid to get involved
Sometimes it's scary for widows to get involved in new things and to make friends, but making new friends is a great way to start the next chapter of your life. You can be certain you are not the only widow in the congregation. Be willing to reach out and talk to people when you attend services, and if you are invited to a church event or out to dinner, be willing to go.
Many programs in churches seem geared towards couples and families. Don't let that cause you to shy away from the church. Ask what programs are available for single people or widows.
If no program is available for widows, ask the pastor if you can start one. While this may be a big step for you, it might be the answer to some other widow's prayers. Helping others is a great prescription for loneliness and sorrow. Even if your group only consists of one or two other widows, it will get you out of the house and enable you to share your burdens with others.
Widowhood is never easy, but finding a good Christian church can make the journey through grieving a little less burdensome. Church services are encouraging, and making new friendships will lessen the loneliness you feel. All you must do is take the first step and attend a service at a church this week. The rewards of uplifting worship and new friendships will be worth it.